Take an activity that you repeat daily. This can be anything from walking to the bus stop, or driving to work, or even the walk from where you parked the car to your desk. Set this time for your Guru. You can either repeat the mantra of 'Waheguru' , the 'wahe-' with an inhalation of breath (or step of the left foot) and the '-guru' with the exhalation of breath (or the step of the right foot). Alternatively you can repeat the mantra of 1st Pauri (verse) of Sri Japji Sahib (majority of Sikhs should know this, if not, shame on you). Try this for a week, it is not easy as you will forget on many occasions but persevere and in a few weeks time as you get into your car or park you car , or whatever it is you do to start your mantra, you will automatically start it. Over time this will become second nature and what you will find is that it will start to creep into other parts of your life, you will find that you are reciting the 1st Pauri when you are making a cup of tea or walking along a corridor at work. This is only the start, the journey is long and arduous but please, do not be disheartened as the alternative is very bleak.
Amrit Whaila (Gurus time) is very important to a Sikh. Amrit Whaila starts at the stoke of midnight, that is the start of a new day, to 6:00 am. The 'credits' go down as the hours tick by but it is quite acceptable to get up at 4.00am but one must finish with the Ardas before the stoke of 6:00. Why so early, why early at all, why not have a long lie in?
'Udum' is a special thing, one must make an effort for your Guru and you will be rewarded. Also it is very quite and peaceful free of distractions (of which there are many).
One must cleanse ones outer self before one can start on the inner, so an 'ishnaan' or bath before one sits down is very important.
Create yourself a little space in your bedroom, maybe in a far corner, although this can be difficult with the limited space one has these days. Make this your place of worship, keep it clean put down a white sheet, do not allow any shoes near and do not allow anyone else near. This is no ritual, all you are doing is keeping a space free of clutter and keeping it clean for your simran. Guru Ji place great importance on 'suchum'.
The absolute minimum nitname of a Sikh is the 'panj banis'(prayers) - Japji Sahib, Jaap Sahib, Amrit Swayia, Bainty Chaupai and Anand Sahib Ji. By reciting these sacred banis one is just keeping ones head above water. One should ask 'what extra am I doing to build up my karma?
Upon sitting down one must address the forces within you that are in a constant state of flux over your Atma (soul). On one side we have Kaam, Krodh, Lobhe, Moh and Hunkaar (KKLMH). On the other you have Dharam, Gian, Sat, Santokh and Dhaya (DGSSD). Whenever one tries to do Naam Simran or gain access to Gurus Sangat then the five KKLMH become very active, one needs to be aware of them to counteract them. You may notice that when you sit down to do your Japji Sahib or Jaap Sahib your mind becomes very active, all manner of thoughts pass through your mind, before you know it you are on your last Pauri, or you find that suddenly your nose starts to itch or you get an itch on your forehead or tickle up your nostril, these are all ways to distract you. If one can recite the Bani from memory then the distractions are worse as you close your eyes, but try to direct your concentration between your eyes while all the time listening to what you are reciting.
In your Ardaas ask for Sawa of the Sangat and to meet a Sant or Mahapursh who can help to guide you to your Guru. Having taken Amrit and joined the Khalsa our father and mother are Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Mata Sahib Kaur Ji, but there is still a need for guidance and this can be obtained from a Sant Mahapursh, just by doing Darshan of a Sant Mahapursh can be very beneficial to our Karmic account.
' .......Eke painda jai chall, satguru kote painda agai hoi late hai'
Guru ji says that if you take one step towards me I will take Kote (many many) steps towards you. Guru ji is waiting with open arms to embrace you but you have to make the effort and take that first step.